You’ve probably heard the term “Self-Care” a lot lately. While we might say it’s a trend, we hope it’s a concept that’s here to say. While everyone can benefit from practicing self-care, it seems to be particularly important for those grieving the loss of a loved one.
When someone you cared about passes away life just feels different. While it may seem like you’ll never feel “normal” again – there are things you can do for yourself to ease the pain.
Remember, self-care doesn’t mean you forget to care for others, nor does it mean that you’re being selfish. Many people believe self-care is necessary for our mental health.
Unplug
Technology and social media can be great tools for communication – but it can be all-consuming sometimes. When someone you loved dies, just checking your social media can drum up emotions. And while it’s healthy to face those feelings, it can also be damaging to obsess over it.
Social media is a great vehicle to receive support, but it can also be overwhelming. It’s important to step back sometimes, and focus on something else. Your digital world will still be there when you return, but it’s important to set down the phone, tablet, or computer for a few hours, a day, a weekend, a week…whatever you need.
Treat Yourself
Craving a nice meal, go out and get one. Want to go away for the weekend for a break, book a trip. Want a massage? Schedule an appointment.
Treating yourself doesn’t even have to cost money. It could be as simple as taking a long, relaxing bath, indulging in a much-needed afternoon nap, or sleeping in on the weekend. You could light a scented candle, or play some music.
When you’re stressed and upset, it can be so therapeutic to say “yes” to yourself. Many people try so hard to return to their normal lives that they burn themselves out. It’s okay to say, “yeah, I’ve been through a lot and I’m still hurting, so I’m going to take care of myself – mind, body and soul.”
Quality Alone Time
While being alone with your thoughts can be scary for some – especially when you’re grieving a loss – it can be incredibly freeing. Quality alone time doesn’t mean justing sitting in a chair thinking about everything. It could be reading a good book, drinking a hot cup of tea, doing yoga, meditating, or taking that bath we mentioned above.
If you want to cry – cry. This exercise isn’t meant to stifle your emotions – merely create a safe environment to heal.
Create a Safe Space
Surround yourself with things and people who add value to your life. You might be feeling like you’re missing something right now – and that’s normal. While you might not ever feel the same again, you can feel better. Go out for coffee or drinks with good friends, laugh, share stories. Expressing joy again doesn’t mean you don’t still miss your loved one, it just means you are taking care of yourself and are healing.
If you’re having trouble recovering from your grief, the staff at Chapel Ridge Funeral Home and Cremation Centre in Markham can help!